Displacement

If you do not heal what hurt you, you are sure to bleed on people who did not cut you.

Displacement is the cause of killing and destroying so many otherwise positive relationships.

In psychology, 'Displacement'

is a defense mechanism where someone redirects their negative outbursts onto someone ( usually a weaker target) merely because the person so displacing his anger is unable to counter-blast the outburst against the powerful person who actually triggered it.

Displaced aggression occurs when an animal or human is fearful or agitated by external stimuli or any form of provocation but is unable to direct that aggression reciprocally towards that stimulus. He would consequently feel agitated and would seek relief through release of that anger against whoever he or she may have a power control over.

Angry Boss : battered wife and children, Annoyed wife : battered Jr employee at work-place, Furious Principal - punished students, uptight mother-in-law : tongue lashed daughter-in-law .... and so on. A battered dog may randomly bite !

All of us have been at sometime or the other both - actors and recipients of 'displacement'. Don't let a toxic boss or a bitter partner, friend, neighbour or a driver of another car on the road trying to honk your head out of sensibilities, throw up on you. Don't confront right away. But don't forget it either. Wait for a peaceful moment to express your displeasure and if he/she still persists, firmly assert your stance if you do not wish to suffer psycho-somatic reaction, on to yourself.