In a corporate environment the most frequently prevailing stereotype ( though not recognised) is the 'Toxic Boss' stereotype.
Easiest for people to believe that their Leader is a monster, an oppressor, without empathy , inconsiderate, selfish, unkind et cetra.
And the worst is that it is the easiest for all others in the team to believe. All Bosses are Monsters, aren't they ?
Often, in this situation, the associate is at fault. He procrastinates, he delays, wastes time, is irresponsible, fails without reasons to meet deadlines and yet expects consideration from the Boss, expects rewards, unlimited forgivance, kind words and recognition despite all realities, good or adverse.
Given the Manager's responsibility , preassures, need to deliver on time and need to plan, organise , co-ordinate and effectively manage, it is not always possible to be kind, giving a long rope and be considerate each time to the Associates' expectations. Crucial conversations happen and the Associate is unhappy. He does not accept it. Why can't the Boss be ever forgiving? Why cant he overlook ?
He comes out of the conversation and he pours out his version to his colleagues. All he shares is - our Boss John is a toxic, unkind, Manager. The crew easily believes it - after all, are not Managers all Toxic ? Thence the word spreads. The good committed Manager suddenly now, by spread of a quick message transforms into a Toxic Manager in the organisation. His impression is cast - wrongly. It may even reach his higher management.
What a sad victim John the otherwise responsible Manager becomes, just trying to perform his job !!!
As a leader, have you ever experienced it ?
Very nice article, Adil. I think, a hard task master without people concern behaves likewise with everyone irrespective of type of associate he is having. If such manager/Leader demonstrates a differentiated behaviour he would be quickly get recognised.